Why me

My Story: From Survivor to Guide – A Journey of Healing and Empowerment

My journey began with hardship. A rough childhood marked by abandonment, the early loss of my father, and the deep scars left by these events led me to grapple with feelings of worthlessness and develop inner saboteurs that seemed impossible to silence. I felt the weight of being an empath without boundaries, constantly absorbing the world's pain while battling my own. But even in the darkest moments, a spark of resilience drove me to seek something beyond survival.

Over the past 25 years, that spark ignited into a full-blown healing journey. I studied psychology and immersed myself in the depths of self-discovery, learning to untangle the patterns that held me back. I found the tools to understand and heal my wounds, to recognize my worth, and to build the boundaries I had never been taught. Piece by piece, I shifted from feeling like a victim of my past to embracing the powerful role of a victor.

Today, I am here for others walking their own healing paths. I know the struggle, the resilience it takes, and the triumphs waiting on the other side. As a coach, I bring the empathy of someone who has lived through pain and the knowledge of someone who has overcome it. I believe healing is a journey we all deserve to experience, and more than that—we deserve to celebrate it.

If you're ready to start your journey or need guidance along the way, I'm here to walk beside you. Together, let's uncover your inner strength, heal the wounds, and celebrate the progress.

Discover how to create a life of meaning, freedom, and adventure

Are you ready for your next level of growth and success but can't be bothered with the 'guess work' of what inner work to do?

Instead you'd love a system that shows you where you currently sit in terms of your personal/professional/spiritual growth and exactly what you need to do to move forward?

My vision for the Client

Holistic approach

At Whitestar coaching, I offer a unique blend of therapeutic techniques designed to nurture your mind, body, and spirit.  Here's a glimpse into the transformative techniques I use:

NLP coaching: Neuro-Linguistic Programming, is a powerful approach to understanding how our thoughts, language, and behaviors influence our experiences. By exploring the connections between our neurological processes (neuro), language (linguistic), and behavioral patterns (programming), NLP helps individuals reframe their thinking, overcome limitations, and achieve their goals more effectively. Through techniques such as visualization, reframing, and anchoring, NLP empowers individuals to enhance communication, overcome challenges, and unlock their full potential. Master powerful NLP techniques with me to conquer obstacles, boost confidence, and enhance productivity. read more The power of NLP

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a widely used and evidence-based approach to psychotherapy that focuses on the connection between thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. It helps individuals identify and challenge negative or unhelpful thought patterns and beliefs, replacing them with more balanced and realistic ones. By changing the way we think, CBT aims to alleviate distress and improve emotional well-being. Additionally, CBT incorporates behavioral techniques to help individuals develop healthier coping strategies and change maladaptive behaviors. Overall, CBT is a practical and collaborative approach that empowers individuals to take control of their thoughts and actions, leading to positive changes in their lives.

Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is a form of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) that emphasizes acceptance and change. It was originally developed to treat individuals with borderline personality disorder (BPD), but has since been adapted for various other mental health conditions. DBT combines cognitive-behavioral techniques with mindfulness practices, helping individuals learn to tolerate distress, regulate their emotions, improve interpersonal relationships, and develop skills for managing crises. It focuses on balancing acceptance and change, teaching individuals to acknowledge their emotions without judgment while also working towards behavioral change. Overall, DBT aims to promote a sense of balance, stability, and emotional resilience in individuals facing challenges in managing their emotions and behaviors.

Schema Therapy: Identify and challenge negative thought patterns and behaviors. Cultivate self-awareness and self-compassion. Identify and address underlying schemas and modes that contribute to self-defeating patterns and relationship challenges. Gain powerful tools and strategies to challenge negative beliefs, cultivate self-compassion, and build resilience. Achieve sustainable growth and lasting change as you rewrite your life narrative and reclaim your inner peace. My desire is to bring more awareness of the "healthy mode" and ways to practise it. read more The art of Schema therapy

Mindfulness and Meditation: Mindfulness promotes a sense of well-being and equips individuals with valuable tools for navigating life's ups and downs with greater ease and resilience. Cultivate present-moment awareness, as it is proven to have major impact on all dimensions of living. Let me name some reasons: stress reduction, improved mental health, enhanced focus and concentration, emotional regulation, better relationships, physical health benefits and increased Resilience. read more Mindfulness is NOT boring

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT): Embrace acceptance of difficult emotions while committing to actions aligned with your values, fostering a sense of fulfillment and purpose. read more Acceptance is your power

Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT): Focus on solutions and strengths, empowering you to create positive changes and achieve your desired outcomes efficiently. read more Embrace your power

Expressive Arts Therapy: Tap into your creativity to process emotions, gain new perspectives, and access deeper levels of self-expression and healing. 

Positive intelligence: The amazing concept of saboteurs, sage and cultivating muscles of positive intelligence.

Shadow work

I stand for the "A-The Part of You" and "Part of You - Not You" approach in therapy. read more Just a PART of you

Together, we'll create a safe and supportive space for exploration, growth, and transformation. 

Embark on the path to healing and empowerment today. 

Why listen to me 

- Master's degree in Psychology (educational psychology, counselling, clinical psychology) from 2008

- The Expert Coach by Clients on Automation approved by International Authority for Professional coaching & mentoring

- Life coaching certification by The Academy of modern applied psychology

- CBT (cognitive-behavioral therapy) practitioner by The Academy of modern applied psychology

- Mindfulness practitioner  by The Academy of modern applied psychology

- NLP practitioner Classic Code by International trainers and coaching academy 

- NLP coach by NLP Academy

- EMDR (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing therapy) 

- Schema Therapy: basic schema models, methods and strategies by Schema Therapy training online

- Schema Therapy: methods to manage emotions, integrating schema therapy with DBT

- SFBT ( solution focused brief therapy) certificate

- International coach certificate 

- Expert Coach by Ed J Smith

- Positive intelligence practitioner by Shirzad

- Shadow work practitioner

to be continued... 

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Most common areas of my clients

Disclaimer

As a psychologist, I am committed to providing support and guidance to individuals seeking personal growth and development. However, it's important to note that while I hold qualifications and experience in psychology, I am not a clinical psychologist. This means that I do not diagnose or treat clinical mental health disorders. Therefore, I focus more on coaching, mentoring and mediation. 

Please be aware that my services are intended for individuals seeking personal development, self-improvement, and empowerment. While I offer valuable insights, techniques, and strategies to enhance mental well-being and personal effectiveness, my services are not a substitute for professional clinical treatment. If you are experiencing severe mental health issues or require diagnosis and treatment for clinical conditions, I strongly encourage you to seek assistance from a licensed clinical psychologist or mental health professional.

My role is to support individuals in achieving their personal and professional goals, promoting self-awareness, and facilitating positive change. I provide a safe and supportive environment for healing, exploration and growth. My focus is the majority of population (not clinical patients). 

However, my background equips me with a deep understanding of psychological principles and therapeutic techniques that can significantly contribute to personal growth, resilience-building, and overall well-being. Whether you're grappling with anxiety, recovering from trauma, or seeking support through life's transitions, I am here to offer compassionate guidance and evidence-based strategies tailored to your unique needs.

By engaging in coaching or counseling sessions with me, you acknowledge and understand the limitations of my practice as a non-clinical psychologist. If you have any questions or concerns about the appropriateness of my services for your specific needs, please feel free to discuss them with me.